It’s incredibly easy to get consumed by depressive emotions and self-doubt. Underneath such feelings of inadequacy and vulnerability is always a more profound truth: We do not feel deserving of affection. Societal values teach us that we all always aspire to be “higher.” That translates to being slimmer, healthier, wealthier, and smarter—you get the idea. We are rarely taught that we are sufficient in our current state.
We may also doubt our own worth, which is sad.
“When my inner critic begins to whisper that I will never be competitive or satisfied, my yogic sensibility tells me to stop everything I am doing, relax, and breathe. Occasionally, I go for the ice cream and want to wallow. However, the negative rabbit hole persists, and the turnaround time is still prolonged.”
Taking The First Step Towards Self-Love
There are many ways in which we can provide ourselves and demonstrate self-love. We may read uplifting poems, indulge in a massage, go for long walks in nature, or get help from a friend (or therapist). As individuals, we should also look to our practice for guidance. Personally, learning meditation on self-love helps you reconnect with your heart—reminding you that you deserve love, especially from yourself.
Self-love meditation enables you to be authentic and open about yourself. Accepting your thoughts and desires rather than driving them further is an act of love itself. When you meditate with your heart and mind, you are able to build a compassionate environment around you in which you can feel anything without being judged. During this time, It’s important to let things go at this period so that you are not punishing yourself for whatever you feel you did wrong. in fact, urging yourself to continue being a living and breathing person like a human being. You can sense yourself slipping away from the experience of this caring room as soon as you abandon the present moment and allow your emotions (whether positive or bad) to overtake your mind.
Meditation teaches you that feelings are not permanent; they pass away with time. When you take a step back and allow them to pass, you see that every sense of unworthiness you experience is only transitory.
Therefore, rather than being judgmental about yourself and falling into the standard “not enough” storyline when confronted by self-doubt and a lack of self-love, take a deep breath and use this meditation to convince yourself that you are deserving of your own love and compassion.
Self-Love: The Journey Within!
Mastering dealing with day-to-day emotions can be challenging. But the human mind is capable of achieving the mountainous feat. There are several ways that you can try anywhere and express self-love. For instance, engage yourself in reading some uplifting poetry, pamper yourself with massage and take a small walk in the calm nature by feeling the essence of it.
Spend time on mediation that will help you connect with yourself on a deeper level. It will give you a chance to get real and tender with yourself. Sitting in nature and observing your thoughts and feelings is also a kind of love. Sit somewhere in silence and try to listen to your heart, and see what it says without any judgment. This will allow you to be more compassionate with yourself and teach your self-love.
Why is Self-Love So Difficult?
Can you remember when you first felt bad about yourself? Like What’s wrong with me, I’m always making mistakes, and whatever is happening, it’s all my fault.
This is the typical stream of thoughts for those who treat self-love merely as a reward for the day in which they choose to be the person they want to be. This kind of behaviour implies that your self-love is just the subject of success and failure.
So, What Is True Self-Love & How Meditation Makes It Happens?
Self-Love is accepting each part of your body as it is without any judgment. It will take you straight towards your true self and teach you the true meaning of forgiveness, compassion, and acceptance. And give you a sense of peace. True Self-love is being able to let go of the old way of thinking and open yourself to experiencing the uncertainty of the world. When you will be able to recognize your thoughts and mind as just a mere part of yourself and not attach yourself with it, that day you will meet with your true essence.
Meditation is the best way to achieve that state of mindset. Meditation will help you find that your mind is just a clear blue sky and your thoughts and emotion is just like a fleeting cloud that comes and goes. It will teach you that the true essence of the mind is just calmness, brightness, and happiness. And help your mind unburden with negative thoughts. This is the power of meditation. It will transform your mind in such a way just as rain does to the overall environment.
Why It Is Important To Love Yourself?
You simply cannot take care of others if you are in ignorance of your own love. When you truly and unconditionally love yourself, you move through the world with deeper compassion and derive a deep sense of joy and pleasure from the act of giving.
Self-love is, therefore, not just your responsibility, but it’s your fuel and foundation that makes you move through life with ease, and everything starts to fall into place. If this self-love is not in your life, then your whole world will be unstable and uncertain.
Self-love makes you more resilient through which you can withstand any challenges future holds. Depression, anxiety, stress, and striving to be perfect will vanish automatically just by accepting yourself as you are.
Methods To Master Self-Love: A Beginning To A Lifelong Romance
Oscar Wilde Once said, loving yourself is the beginning of a lifelong romance. That means, self-love is not a destination, but it’s a life-long journey. And here are some techniques and exercises that will help you in this Journey.
You Are The Epicentre Of Everything
It all starts with you and ends with you. No other species is responsible for whatever you are doing. You are the one who is going to be yourself for eternity. So it is better to start self-loving instead of self-loathing.
No One Is Interested In you Except You
This is the harshest truth of life, but a real fact. No one else is interested in you. Your well-being, safety, health, happiness all is in your hand. Nobody else can care for it better than you. No one knows what’s good and bad for you. What hurts you most. So make your own decision and be your own leader.
The Love Exists In You
Love from others is just an illusion. No one can love you better than you. Your happiness is in your hand. Loving yourself is eternal and seeking love from others is just ephemeral. To reflect on yourself and find the love that you seek in others.
Some Amazing Self-Love Techniques To Find Yourself
Find Your Own Voice
Why would they do this to me? Why only me? Why do never good things ever happen to me? All this is the mental chatter that you have to be aware of. Our mind operates on a dual personality. So, it is normal to feel inferior and superior sometimes. Becoming aware and conscious of how you treat yourself in your mind makes you more compassionate. Pay attention to your self-talk and how it makes you feel, and discard all the thoughts that are demeaning to you, and direct your whole energy to build something constructive in your mind.
Stick On Your Own Belief
Observe your own mind and your current belief and values. And make sure you don’t carry someone else beliefs. As your experience is as precious as others. However, question your own belief, if they are serving you as you want, you have the power to discard them.
Spend Good Time With Yourself
Before caring for others, take good care of yourself first. As everything starts with you and then it goes to others. Exercise daily, take proper sleep and extend your social interaction. As when you take care of your property, you surround yourself with positive and magnetic energies that make you more attractive.
Set Your Own Boundaries
In life, figuring out what’s good and what’s bad for you is necessary to give life one particular direction. Don’t ever tolerate being treated like a doormat. You have your own worth. So be with people who are right for you who reflect your self-respect and reputation as your own.
Belief In Something
Faith is the foundation of self-love. No matter what you believe, just have faith in it. Faith is the doorway to the soul. When you believe in something it opens you up to the beauty of it. It takes you on a journey of self-learning which enhances the intuition that helps you in making the right decision.
Self-Love Meditation: All The Power Within!
Putting the self-love technique into practice is necessary, but more important is learning to focus on the feeling of self-love within.
Meditation on Self-Love: How to Love From Inside
To begin, adjust your surroundings. You can either lay on your back with a bolster under your legs and a folded blanket behind your head, or you can lean comfortably on a bolster or a few folded blankets. Sit against a wall or in a chair for added protection.
Feel the bond between the back of the body and the mat while you are lying down. While sitting, lengthen your back, extend your collarbones, and place your hands on your thighs (palms facing either up or down).
After settling down, close your eyes or soften your focus and become aware of your breath. Take note of your breath without attempting to alter it. Additionally, notice whether you are stressed or calm, without attempting to alter one.
Via your nose, inhale, and then through your teeth, exhale. Continue to inhale deeply and exhale completely through your nose. When you breathe, become conscious of your body’s condition and the quality of your mind. Where is your body tense? Do you feel mentally alone or shut down? What has become of your mind? Is it in need of a house or is it at ease inside the breath? Is your mind at peace or do you feel anxious, negative, and doubtful?
Continue to inhale through your nose and exhale through your mouth with both hands placed over your heart. Consider how it feels to put your hands over this tender spot, this location of self and other love.
Allow your breath to become more fluid and effortless as you inhale and exhale through your nose. Sensitize yourself to the flow of air entering and exiting your lungs.
Consider that with each exhale, you are releasing any remaining bad emotions in your head.
Concentrate your attention on your pulse for the remainder of the exercise. Consider “I am deserving” on each inhale and “I am sufficient” on each exhale. Allow each inhales to bring self-love into your body and each exhales to expel what is no longer helping you. Allow a few moments to breathe deeply and mentally repeat this mantra. Take note of how you feel when speaking these words to yourself.
At any moment, it’s acceptable for your mind to drift. The mind is a wandering creature by birth. Simply redirect your focus to your breath. Take note of how your feelings, whether positive or negative, come and go, and actually encourage them to fly by like clouds in the sky.
Now see yourself in front of a mirror, gazing at your own eyes. How do you see things? What is the difference between pain and sorrow? What is the difference between love and happiness? Is it possible to be objective?
If you see yourself in the mirror, tell yourself, “I love you,” “I am amazing,” and “I deserve happiness.” Recognize that the image you see in the mirror at the moment can vary from the image you see the next time you look.
Consider breathing into your heart right now and visualising love flowing out of your hands and into your heart.
Allow this love to warm and permeate your whole body from your heart core.
Feel a feeling of security and relaxation as it travels up into your chest, throat, and ears, out through your shoulders, arms, and hands, and finally down through your ribs, hips, pelvis, thighs, and feet.
Allow yourself to be enveloped in a sense of warmth from head to toe. Breathe deeply here and be certain that love is always there for you when you need it.
Take a few more long, conscious breaths and then gently open your eyes when you are ready. Recognize the special feeling you had during this meditation by sitting for a few moments. Refer to this exercise, or some other available resource, if you need to build a nurturing place for yourself.
This is an incredible chance to discover something new about yourself and to become more in tune with your physical and emotional needs. Allow self-love to strengthen your relationship with yourself and to allow you to be more completely present in your life.
My Final Thoughts
Self-love is not a choice, it’s your only option to make yourself stand out from the crowd. So focus on yourself, spend as much time as possible with yourself, and live life like you are the only one available on this earth. This will increase your self-worth and also give you the confidence to face the world courageously.